Over the weekend, I saw a short video of a young adult who was sitting in her dorm room talking about how she's always helping her friends. However, when she needed help with something and she would ask them, they were never there to help her. She said she would talk to them about it and they would say they would help her next time however they would never be there the next time either. This is really disappointing because she definitely needs to stand up for herself and not let her friends take advantage of her.
That video inspired me to write this Monday Motivation post. Because being kind and generous with our time (money, possessions, etc.) is a wonderful thing but if we don't at times set limits on the time we give to others you could run the risk of burning yourself out or possibly being treated like a doormat. It feels good to help but unfortuantely there are people (family, friends, etc.) who may take advantage of your kindness. For example, a colleague at work trying to push their work on you or a classmate trying to get you to do more of the work on a class project or a friend who keeps borrowing your stuff or a family member that always ask for help (but never returns the favor). And in that young woman's case, she allowed her friends to take advantage of her and in return they don't feel the need help her.
So, for instances like these, it's more than okay to put your foot down and say no when others are asking for way too much from you. Being nice doesn't mean being a doormat or becoming a mean person. It just means you're standing up for yourself and not letting yourself be taken advantage of. I do hope that young woman will take this opportunity to learn how to stand up for herself. And if her friends don't like her standing up for herself than maybe she should find some new friends.
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